Finding a sense of ease and comfort in our lives is something many of us seek but struggle with. We need this for an overall sense of well-being. For some, there are many competing demands that get in the way. For others, a lack of resources contributes to their inability to achieve comfort and ease and thus a greater sense of well-being.
Let’s unpack these issues. If competing demands are getting in the way there are some things that can be done to change this. There are choices to be made. As a wellness coach I like to find practical tools first so clients can realize some success and then build upon that. It’s about incremental steps.
The following are some practical things that can be done to achieve more ease and comfort.
Individuals and families can establish priorities and develop action plans to help them find space for activities related to ease and comfort. Lack of planning results in randomness, lost time, and a sense of being overwhelmed. The simplest solution is to block time on a calendar for all things including the soccer game, grocery shopping and family activities, for example. Relationships matter so scheduling family time is crucial.
Social engagements are also an important part of building ease and comfort. Use regular blocks of time for these activities.
Parents, or partners if there are no kids, need a time block for date nights. Relationships must be built on intentional efforts or they will atrophy. These efforts will maintain ease and comfort within the relationship and require the effort of all parties.
Individually, ease and comfort can be achieved through self-care. This is another time block for the calendar. Whether living solo, with a partner or in a family unit, everyone benefits from planned self-care. Examples of self-care include curling up with a book, getting out for a walk in nature, spending quality time with a friend, or a home-spa treatment of body dry brushing followed by self-massage and a shower or warm soaking bath. Yoga Nidra, a deep guided “yoga sleep”, is a beautiful practice to instill ease and comfort that can be scheduled 2-3 times per week for optimal well-being.
Some may say there’s no extra time for this stuff. However, when activities that support your well-being are scheduled and adhered to time takes on a new dimension, that is you realize you have more time than you thought. It may be that some activities do need to be reduced or even eliminated to create more time for ease and comfort. In those cases prioritize what’s best for you and your loved ones.
Those who evoke the “no time” excuse may be among the many who average 2.5 hours a day on social media. That is lost time. Social media is not creating ease and comfort in our lives. For many, it contributes to anxiety. Think about the choices you are making.
Lack of resources is another reason many can’t find ease and comfort in their lives. Financial stress diminishes well-being. In our wealthy society, so much prosperity is centred at the top while many struggle for the basics of life. We’ve also become individualistic and less concerned about collective well-being.
Did you know that global wealth increased by nearly 10% in 2021 from 2020? This is according to the Credit Suisse Research Institute’s Global Wealth Report 2022. This wealth is largely geared toward global millionaires, a group that grew by 5.2 million to 65.2 million in 2021. By comparison, in the US, the bottom 50% of households saw an increase in wealth from 1.84% to 2.64% in the same time period.
As inequality prospers many live the day-to-day reality of this disparity. Ease and comfort are a luxury they don’t dare dream about. As a result, society suffers.
When people are lacking in the necessities of life it’s hard to introduce them to well-being. What is available to them is limited at best.
Those of us who live with privilege can advocate for more community programming, volunteer, or donate to existing programs.
Just as It takes a village to raise a child, it takes a community to foster well-being. Are we up for the challenge?
Whatever the reason that ease and comfort are lacking it is important to create space for more. Your well-being is based on many factors but ease and comfort are crucial elements in the mix.
If you are ease and comfort deficient in your life and would like some input, go ahead and book a free 30-minute non-obligatory onboarding session with me. Who knows what we will discover together?